The Prize Goes to…Malala’s Father – Rabia Alavi

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Malala Yousafzai with her father Ziauddin. The Paksitani Nobel Laureate's father deserves the credit for his audacity of hope.
Malala Yousafzai with her father Ziauddin. The Paksitani Nobel Laureate’s father deserves the credit for his audacity of hope and forever standing by his daughter

Let us hand it to Malala’s father for being resolute, if nothing else, and more importantly, for believing in his daughter’s dreams

RABIA ALAVI

[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he Nobel Peace Prize was awarded last week, given jointly to Kailash Satyarthi, an Indian activist against child labor, and Malala Yousafzai, the young Pakistani activist for education, ‘for their struggle against the suppression of children and young people and for the right of all children to education’.

It is an incredible feat for the youngest recipient of the prize ever, Malala, who used a pen name, Gul Makai, to chronicle her life under the oppressive rule of the Taleban when they took over her district, Swat.

While Malala’s diary for the BBC’s Urdu service was appreciated by many, her tenacious stance earned her a place on the Taleban hit-list. She was attacked in 2012, and suffered a head injury. But she lived to tell the tale – and moved on to champion progressive ideas for education, and win Pakistan its second Nobel Prize.

Yet not all Pakistanis are happy about it, if the responses on social media are anything to go by. The dichotomy in opinions seems to split equally right down the middle of the Pakistani nation. While one section of the society lauds Malala with praise for her courage and confidence, the other criticizes her for being a puppet in the hands of her scheming father and the West who will use her against ‘us’.

Malala Yousafzai with her father at a hospital in UK.
Malala Yousafzai with her father at a hospital in Birmingham, UK. Queen Elizabeth Hospital/PA

Everyone has a right to their own opinions, no matter how slanted or chauvinistic they may be. Also, it should come as no surprise that a majority of those who choose to malign Malala and her father are men. After all, this world is full of male misogynists, and social media forums are but an extension of the same.

Yet you have to cringe when you read ‘educated’ men (and women) create far-flung conspiracies to explain away the choice of Malala as the recipient of the prestigious prize. The issue is not just that these men choose to call Malala’s father an opportunist who groomed his daughter with the lofty aim of becoming the darling of the West, although yes, that does amount to saying that he let the Taleban shoot his little girl (she could have died, by the way), so the family could move to the UK.

For me, the grievance is more that they fail to comprehend the audacity of a man who educates his daughter, and is determined to make great things happen for her. He is courageous rather than conniving – a hero in the eyes of his daughter, and those whose fathers cannot exhibit such fortitude.

Pakistan is a country dictated by a patriarchal value system, where the social order finds support for male superiority in the household and beyond, and condescending gender stereotypes justified with references from Islam cannot be challenged, as incorrect as they may be.

In closed, conservative cultures and societies, where gender inequality is entrenched by our social and cultural norms, simple encouragement is difficult in a society where not everyone understands or agrees with the importance of an education for a girl child, let alone allowing that child to lead what will certainly be a public life, perhaps away from home. I wonder, do people even realize how difficult it is for Malala’s father to take a stance, and let his daughter do all the great things that she certainly has potential for?

So please let’s hand it to Malala’s father for being resolute, if nothing else, and more importantly, for believing in his daughter.

That is not to say other fathers do not believe in their daughters. Without turning this into a tribute to my father, I know I have him to thank for his brave stand in encouraging his daughters to acquire professional education – an unthinkable idea in our family before our generations. His valiance has ensured that ten years down the line, there is no dearth of female dentists, doctors or pharmacists in our family.

But there are many untold stories of obvious talent gone to waste, only because the father could not stand up to a community that believed in an early marriage for the little one.

Here, let me add another story that might help tell you where I am headed with this discussion.

A couple of months back, one of my friends fell in love with and married a divorced woman. She is four years his senior, financially sound, and works in a very senior position in a legal firm. Everyone applauded his brave decision, given the cultural stigmas attached to Muslim, sub-continental men marrying women older than themselves – and that too divorced.

Yet they were all missing the point. He was brave, no doubt, but his courage lay in his belief and understanding that the woman was doing him a favor by accepting him, rather than the other way round.

It was his perspective that needed to be applauded, for it acknowledged the bias that exists against divorcees, and the pointless disapproval of society against women marrying younger men.

Now, coming to my point. Recently I was asked to write a small piece about the role that men can play in ending gender inequality as part of a job application. It was a subject that I found compelling, yet almost impossible to approach. So daunted was I by the question that I did not apply for the position.

Yet, Malala’s father, my own, and then my friend provide the answer to this question quite easily. What men can contribute to the war against gender disparity, is to change their attitudes. As active participants in the conversation on gender disparity, especially in education, but in other strata too, they will have to speak up. They will have to challenge the present gender order and lend their voices to protest against injustices that exist in this modern, liberal world rather than see it all as one conspiracy after the other – by the feminists, West or Jews.

Meanwhile, back home, only when there are more fathers like Malala’s father, willing to believe in and stand up for their daughters’ rights, will we have a Pakistan that progresses and prospers.

 

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